There are things that are impossible to change: this awful term mail order brides or the stereotype opinion that the economical situation in Russia is really bad and people live poorly and therefore women are ready to marry even a devil for the sake of a sweet life in the West.

But if you are looking for your soulmate, your other half, your love, throw such thoughts away out of your mind! Yes, most likely, she isnt rich. It is quite possible that she earns a month what you earn a day. But she is a personality with her own dreams, values and dignity, looking for love.

It was a letter of one American man to a Russian lady that made me write about it. Here is the FULL letter we received on our web site:

Please tell me more about yourself. I make $200,000/yr US$ Dave

And here is what the lady answered to him:

Hello David,

Thanks for your letter but I believe I wouldnt be interested in a man who tells nothing about him and his personality except the money he makes. You see I am not interested in meeting a bag of money. I am interested in the personality. I am looking for a serious correspondence. So I came to the conclusion that you are not my type. I wish you good luck in your further search.

Regards, Larisa

Women are vulnerable. You are choosing Russian women for their family values and at the same time trample on their feelings, mocking at these values.

You will say that we just came across a foolish man and we shouldnt draw conclusions from his letter. But there are too many letters of this kind. Someone boasts of his income, someone considers the country of residence to be his only merit worth of mentioning in the first letter:

Hello, Are you still looking for a future partner from the UK. If so let me know by return. Cheers Martin

Impersonal letters, as though written by a robot. Do you think women cant feel it?

Hello, Martin. Thanks a lot for your note, but I should say that I am not interested in a man who is not able to write more than one sentence to make a girl interested in him. Having read your letter, I have only two thoughts about you. Either you have sent your letter to thousands of women and you are waiting who will respond to you or you are lazy to write about yourself more than one sentence. Anyway, I do not want to correspond with you. Sincerely, Tatyana

Hello, Martin. Thanks a lot for your message. Why did you decide that I am looking for my partner in the UK? I am looking for him all over the world. But I do not know whether it would be you. I know nothing about you except that you are from the UK, but it does not mean that you have all the qualities I am looking for in a man... (enumerates the qualities she is seeking)...If you are such a person, I think that we can continue our acquaintance if you are not I wish you good luck in you search Elena.

There are also many letters that start without a womans name or, even worse, addressing another woman.

Lets abandon this shopping vocabulary, when some people consider other ones as goods.

They say that God divided each human being into two halves and scattered these halves all over the world. Someone was destined to be born in Russia, someone in America, or France. But all these people are made of the same dough. Remember about it when you sit down to write hello! next time.

Best wishes Irina