Albert Einstein came up with the theory of relativity. As to whether or not polyfidelity relationships are legitimate family structure, polygamy, bigamy, or just infidelity depends on how you look at, or feel about it. This is likely to be a hot debate topic for many years to come. You will have to make your own mind depending on your relative point of view. Since this is my article, I will be offering my point of view.

Anything two are more people agree as acceptable among themselves should be respected. We do not have to agree with it, but we should at least respect their beliefs. As long as no one is being coerced into doing something they do not believe in, then we should, at the very least, tolerate it. And I believe that across the board for all alternative life styles. Swingers, bisexuals, homosexuals, and even polygamy. Granted polygamy is illegal at this time in the United States. The only thing that makes it illegal, is the laws passed by our government. Many of our laws change in relation to the general public beliefs. Alcohol is an excellent example. It went from legal to illegal to legal again.

Exactly what is the difference between polyfidelity and polygamy anyway? Polyfidelity involves 3 or more people in an intimate relationship. They may have a marriage in the mix, or not. Typically one couple is married and the other participants are not. Polygamy is being married to more than one person. While polygamy is illegal, there aren't any laws against polyfidelty at this time, with the exception of some adultery laws in some states.

The human animal is not always monogamous. Other animals throughout the animal kingdom are also known to be non-monogamous. In the book "The Myth of Monogamy" written by David Barash, a University of Washington zoologist and professor of psychology, and Judith Lipton, a Seattle psychiatrist, suggest that it is natural for us to cheat and that monogamy is something we have to work at. Barash said numerous recent studies have shown that many animals and birds, such as eagles, geese, beavers and gibbons, previously believed to be faithfully monogamous, aren't.

In fact, there are creatures that choose a single mate for life, even though they continue to mate or fool around with others. We assume that infidelity is most often committed by males. Male animals, like apes and lions, have harems. Mankind too, has had harems in it's past. Men having multiple lovers has been an acceptable practise among many cultures. However, studies of the wild kingdom have shown that most often it is the female that takes multiple mates. They just tend to be a little craftier at it. This is a survival method used by the female to insure that at least some of her offspring are from a quality male, while providing security for herself and her brood. We, as humans, do not need this tactic to insure our survival.

So, it would appear that being monogamous is not natural. Again, everything is relative to your beliefs. When we seek out life long love partners, we should insure that they have the same beliefs. Infidelity is easy, we have to work at being monogamous. I do not believe it is possible to go through your hole life without being attracted to more than one person. We, as human beings, have a higher level of thought than the rest of the animal kingdom. We are capable of understanding what is right, and what is wrong. We have the ability to grasp theoretical ideas and philosophies. We can choose to overcome our instincts, and primal desires.

It is up to each individual to decide what they believe is right and what is wrong. You can be in a monogamous relation your entire life if that is what you choose. That lifestyle is already accepted and respected.

If I want to have a polyfidelity type of relationship, then I have to have a partner that wants the same thing. Who then can say it is wrong? If two mates agree that polyfidelity is right, then don't we need to respect that decision?

I would love to hear your comments on this subject... without a bunch of bible verses. Tell us what YOU think, and what YOU feel. I don't want to hear how some religious sect feels, we already know that. This article can also be found in our forums section to make the discussion flow easily.